This post is not sexist in nature and should be ingested in the spirit o fun
Well , lets loosen up a bit shall we ... as i have already told you working at the peaks exhausts you ... unless I have a sufficient driving force i'd rather not waste my time involving in intricacies .. .... not that i am not capable of doing it .... ( believe me i am...) buts its more fun to loosen up from time to time .....
From even when we were young ... you know inside your head we could make out that girlss were gross ..... aren't they not now (lolz) . Do you rember when you were a child a you puked at the sight of a smooch on TV . Well if u havent then u are pervert .....
Anyway going back why are girls so distinct from boys and seriosly i won't encourage any scientific comments .... this is psychology people .... Well speaking mostly subjectively .... leaving apart the continuation of secies non sense girls are just another fragment of society ... , not an insult ......
Let us look at a qualitative comparison of the growth and developement of their thinking style with typical man women behavior
Typical first grade behaviour
Male:
Boy 1 - Hey did u see that new Hot wheel toy man its out of this world.....
Boy 2 - I know and that race track soo coool.....
Female:
Girl 1 - Hey i want that new barbie doll
Girl 2 - Ya i have hair clips for her and a kitchen set (How pathetic is that?)
Typical Pre-teen behaviour
Male:
Boy 1 - Hey check it out the South africa v/s India match in that stadium
Boy 2 - Lets try to get the tickets
Female:
Girl 1 - Hey did u know about the sale in forum?
Girl 2 - 50% off on all clothes and accessories (Man, thats some nonsense)
Typical Teen behaviour
Male:
Boy 1 - Hey did u notice that hot new girl in bio class?
Boy 2 - Ya man i Think i'll ask her out
Female:
Girl 1 - Hey did u notice that hot new girl in bio class?
Girl 2 - Ya i think he'll ask her out....... (well that's close enough to similarity as it gets)
Typical Adult behaviour
Male:
Man 1 - I want those files in my office immediately
Man 2 - You can't order me around.....
Female:
Woman 1 - Hey do u kno wat happened to rachel's husband today ( this is reference to a daily soap ugghhh....)
Woman 1 - Ya i think he is cheating on her with Claire
Typical Wise behaviour
Male:
Gentleman 1 and 2 - I have had enough of this city life i wish to live in peace in some garden area with no noise
Lady 1 and 2 - I have had enough of this city life i wish to live in peace in some garden area with no noise
From the above brief overview we can conclude that men and women are far more similar when wisdom comes into play ........
Because wisdom is a combinig factor between man and women ..... where all differences are eradicated ...
but uptill that point the general behaviour has no match whatsoever except in times of teenage....
where there seems to be apparent wisdom ( i.e thought that they know it all....... don't deny it i am sure we have all had it)
Thus establishes the differences and simmilarities between men and women
Monday, March 8, 2010
Friday, March 5, 2010
Physics of love
What is love? Modern science would like you to believe that the latest answer to this timeless question is that love is a chemical reaction, which is not very romantic. Is it true though? Let us look at this more completely.
First, we will acknowledge the current data. According to scientific research, emotions are generated during the process of meeting and falling in love because of chemical reactions that occur in our bodies. For example, whenever you first meet someone and feel attracted, your brain creates phenyl ethylamine, known as the “love drug.” Dopamine and norepinephren are two more chemicals that arise from just thinking loving thoughts about another. Those two help us to feel excited and interested enough to actually touch or kiss someone, and that sets off more chain reactions, beginning with serotonin, which produces feelings of relaxation. Now the door to trust is open.
If you continue to snuggle with this chemically stimulating person, then oxytocin is created. Oxytocin causes us to feel connected to those we hug or touch on a regular basis, such as our spouses and family members. Vasopressin, another powerful chemical, then ties many of our feelings to memories, and these help us to stay connected to the ones we love. Vasopressin has been credited for making human beings monogamous.
Other foods and activities can also stimulate these chemicals in our bodies, but some people tend to ignore this and try to use the chemical theory as a reason for all kinds of behaviors. For example, some people seem addicted to the stimulatory love chemicals, and they attempt to keep a constant supply by having multiple partners. This need for constant excitement is a popular excuse for those who have the urge to wander, who say that monogamy or commitment are unnatural. When the phenyl ethylamine, dopamine, and norephinephren run low because the newness of a relationship wears off, they are off to new horizons to find more.
Others may use the chemical theory to explain why some people stay in relationships that are bad for them. Perhaps they have become addicted to the “holding on” chemicals, oxytocin and vasopressin, and cannot bear to part with the source of their drugs.
If chemicals are the sole cause of those behaviors though, then why do a majority of people maintain and cherish long term, and even life-long, love relationships? Many folks achieve renewed excitement from exercise, hobbies, and of course chocolate, which is a known source of phenyl ethylamine. They choose to commit to love partners, even though staying in a long-term relationship is hard work. It requires adjusting to habits that will never match your expectations perfectly. It involves learning patience, dealing with disappointment, and coping with a cycle of emotions that range from sorrow to gratitude, and from lust to nurturing comfort.
The chemical theory also fails to explain why parents continue to love their children long after they have left the home and are no longer around to stimulate the production of oxytocin or vasopressin. It does not explain why committed couples maintain mutual admiration, respect, and desire for one another during long cycles of abstinence or separation that occur due to illness, career changes, and other circumstances.
Love is a feeling, certainly, and chemicals may contribute to that feeling, but like all emotions, that aspect of love comes and goes. Love that becomes a constant is a state-of-mind and heart. It survives because we nurture it, and plant the seeds of the relationship in our soul.
Choosing to love someone is what keeps us in love, even though we know that at various times we may become angry, sad and frustrated towards our loved one. Choosing to love is what makes us stick around until the next wave of desire or tenderness brings us into one another’s arms again. Choosing to love is remembering the good times in the middle of the bad times.
Chemicals cannot make our choices. We choose to open our hearts or not everyday, and this freedom of choice is what makes us human, and fully capable of rising above chemical reactions in order to make spiritual decisions of the heart.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Communalism and its various faces .........
Communal-ism after the riots of 1857 were mainly raised during the partition of bengal by Lord curzon .... although i am not sufficiently authoritative enough to comment upon the situation of communal disharmony ... and to raise my views ...
I nevertheless present my views here and also with a disclaimer that it is not in the spirit of hurting any section of society....
We have been taught from a very young age that work is our only religion .... there have been numerous scriptures and many more texts which speak in this effect .......
Communal disharmony mainly arises due to the concept of superiority of one god over another ......
What i always failed to understand is the concept of why to force conversion ... are not everyone entitled to thier own flow of thought and their own lifestyle notwithstanding the interference of the so called spiritual leaders of said sects of creeds......
Also another prevalent trend is the fear of the whole sect because of the mistake comitted by one .
what better example than the 9 / 11 incident .....
this incident shook they very foundation of the entire global community without sparing the eastern religions ....
we came to be looked down upon ... y ?
Because of an err committed by someone who was scorned ... and whose action were mainly guided by the love for his religion .....
Blaming the entire muslim community for the 9 / 11 incident is as good as blaming the entire white races for , racism , hiroshima nagasaki blasts , war against Iraq ... the birmingham incident and untold crimes of sorts .... where have these incidents gone ... merely lost in the veils of time and fading away to oblivion every passing generation .....
Why should a whole community lift the burden of a folly committed by young zealous enthusiastic extremists ...........
The community as a whole never meant any harm to any one ....... Moving closer to home ... there have been innumerable events in India itself like the chowri chowra ...... jallian waala bagh , the burning of innumerable trains buildings streets ... all unaccounted for .....
This mainly happens because , not of greater good .... but most often personal hatred .....
merely seeking revenge at the loss of a loved one .... nothing more ....
The riots are planned mainly to eradicate the other sect which so brutally cast away the life of your loved one like nothing more than mere cattle .,.......
but in doing thus ..... stooping to butchering for revenge are we not guilty of the same crime as our offenders , how are we any different .....
what viability do we have for these killings .... revenge ?
is this our justification ? religion ? is this our justification ? corruption? is this our justification .....
Any justification that we choose to give clearly stands out of the norms of the religion ... for no religion teaches killing as an answer to mass struggle ,.......... The seeds of dissent the the british had sown long long ago was instantaneous by bearing fruit .... introducing hatred between brothers ... all for power .... which they eventually had to relinquish .....
Further aggravated by the 9 /11 ......... lakhs of innocent people died , many our own ...... but still we are blamed .... simply because the attack was communal in nature ...... is this our punishment.......
But there is still hop , so long as the generations to come are taught that communal dismay is to be spit upon ...... we shall be facing these situations everyday .........
It is only in ouur own interest to note that religion is a path way to god and not an excuse to butcher someone who does not stand true to your beliefs .
hope this humble message may reach many and may help in whatever little way possible to elate our bystanding in the world of men .
Peaks and depression
The human psyche is a complex conjugal , pf misunderstood intricate system which is primordially a combined function of external agencies and internal intricacies .
Now , for everyone , in any subject or contextual field there are stages when the impedance of the external and internal faculties are in perfect resonance . These states offer correspond inevitably in a peculiar rise in information faculties of the particular field . In other words .... at such conjunctures ... the mind becomes somewhat more one pointed and the performance of anyone at that point of time is oft accelerated .
It is oft seen even in lives of sportsmen and poets , actors , painters or writers ..... there occurs a stage in their being where they are at "the top of their game" ..... these stages correspond to the excited state of electrons .. highly unstable and can be sustained not for a very long time .......
The very composure and con texture of the artist begins to break once he subdues his peak. proceeding which the peak seldom occurs , only in rare cases , when inter - exter causes match......
The internal causes ; like inductance grows linearly .... but upon eaching the peak the external causes decay hyperbolically mainly thanks to a few caricatures who manifest and project upon the "peak" achiever their hatered , envy , and what not ......... and in doing thus .... thier fall from the top is much more steep than their assent ........
Falling from the peak is tough ..... if your internal faculties are so well developed that they can take up the responsibility of the fatal leap .... then the subject under question becomes nothing more than the mere commoner again with a hint of his peak performance and nuances often........
Those who haven't had a well developed internal faculties hardly sustain the not so emollient leap from thier peak ....... most often than naught ending up in depressions ........
I would rather not go into explicit detail about depression because the very concept itself seems to radiate from within itself force incomprehensible and illegitimate (yes .... this word is not out of context) . Causing those in proximity to these vile forces thoughts which gnaw at once being and slowly consummate the internal faculties until they are as good as obsolete.. ......
Anyone who opposes my notion is free to comment upon said issue ....... and anyone who is not in standing with the framework of the concept itself .... you are free to criticize........
Now , for everyone , in any subject or contextual field there are stages when the impedance of the external and internal faculties are in perfect resonance . These states offer correspond inevitably in a peculiar rise in information faculties of the particular field . In other words .... at such conjunctures ... the mind becomes somewhat more one pointed and the performance of anyone at that point of time is oft accelerated .
It is oft seen even in lives of sportsmen and poets , actors , painters or writers ..... there occurs a stage in their being where they are at "the top of their game" ..... these stages correspond to the excited state of electrons .. highly unstable and can be sustained not for a very long time .......
The very composure and con texture of the artist begins to break once he subdues his peak. proceeding which the peak seldom occurs , only in rare cases , when inter - exter causes match......
The internal causes ; like inductance grows linearly .... but upon eaching the peak the external causes decay hyperbolically mainly thanks to a few caricatures who manifest and project upon the "peak" achiever their hatered , envy , and what not ......... and in doing thus .... thier fall from the top is much more steep than their assent ........
Falling from the peak is tough ..... if your internal faculties are so well developed that they can take up the responsibility of the fatal leap .... then the subject under question becomes nothing more than the mere commoner again with a hint of his peak performance and nuances often........
Those who haven't had a well developed internal faculties hardly sustain the not so emollient leap from thier peak ....... most often than naught ending up in depressions ........
I would rather not go into explicit detail about depression because the very concept itself seems to radiate from within itself force incomprehensible and illegitimate (yes .... this word is not out of context) . Causing those in proximity to these vile forces thoughts which gnaw at once being and slowly consummate the internal faculties until they are as good as obsolete.. ......
Anyone who opposes my notion is free to comment upon said issue ....... and anyone who is not in standing with the framework of the concept itself .... you are free to criticize........
Monday, February 15, 2010
Rearviews upon Love
"I have to disagree with most of your notions buddy..i do not claim you are mistaken but only this, that my vision of love differs radically from yours
Relationships do not tie u down to your base fawning unless of course u do not learn to feed upon the beauty of the relationship indulge in the ecstacy it offers by rejuvenating your senses
A true lover never has doubts!if he does he is not true!(they are actually contradictory terms)
I must compliment you for making bold statements criticizing the symptoms of love and courage to face the heat that it might evoke.and before u were "exempt" u have often felt the surge of fervent emotions that infatuation creates in the mind...love only makes you feel these emotions at a deeper level...closer to your soul
INEVITABLY??that's a strong word!for all you kno, your neighbour might be sleeping indoor!
Yes love is a an absolutely necessity for all its splendours and wonders for all its beauties and excitement and most of all for the one your love! love is eternal!"
Such a lengthy and non-exhaustive review upon topics concerned by a my bade bhaiya who is worthy of competence and whose words worthy cognizance .... i shall now for thereupon replying to my bade bhaiya resort to my more archaic dexterous form of allegory that my bade bhaiya aand i love to play with ( for those who still reading uptil this point i mean complex form of speech )
Yes , bade bhaiya , in eager response to your systematically assessed, reviewed and contraindicated Vision about love , I would like to bring upon your ferry oft blinded vision and sight - mostly by the by stands and what naught of teenage - that u seek to analyze and
infer from within your echelons rising above and out of classical teenage thinking process . In doing thus ... so shall you realize that adjudging your paraphrase is very ancient truth ... nevertheless i still stand true to my firm and unswerving viewpoint that the conjugal notion of "love" and all its blandishments and its so called "actual meaning" has gone astray .... in doing thus we have sent into the black hole those values ourselves and we seem to be living on mere residue of its actual lexicon significance ......
Saying thus have you not realized that byfar you or I or anyone for matter of context has ever , drawing forth truth , have come across a single physical or for that matter even meta physical or carnal being who does in its actualities "and all its glory" understand its original connotation....
Be sure to cast upon yourself these questions and more for then u shall understand my point has its standing and its viability is not out of question ...... waiting for your reply
Relationships do not tie u down to your base fawning unless of course u do not learn to feed upon the beauty of the relationship indulge in the ecstacy it offers by rejuvenating your senses
A true lover never has doubts!if he does he is not true!(they are actually contradictory terms)
I must compliment you for making bold statements criticizing the symptoms of love and courage to face the heat that it might evoke.and before u were "exempt" u have often felt the surge of fervent emotions that infatuation creates in the mind...love only makes you feel these emotions at a deeper level...closer to your soul
INEVITABLY??that's a strong word!for all you kno, your neighbour might be sleeping indoor!
Yes love is a an absolutely necessity for all its splendours and wonders for all its beauties and excitement and most of all for the one your love! love is eternal!"
Such a lengthy and non-exhaustive review upon topics concerned by a my bade bhaiya who is worthy of competence and whose words worthy cognizance .... i shall now for thereupon replying to my bade bhaiya resort to my more archaic dexterous form of allegory that my bade bhaiya aand i love to play with ( for those who still reading uptil this point i mean complex form of speech )
Yes , bade bhaiya , in eager response to your systematically assessed, reviewed and contraindicated Vision about love , I would like to bring upon your ferry oft blinded vision and sight - mostly by the by stands and what naught of teenage - that u seek to analyze and
infer from within your echelons rising above and out of classical teenage thinking process . In doing thus ... so shall you realize that adjudging your paraphrase is very ancient truth ... nevertheless i still stand true to my firm and unswerving viewpoint that the conjugal notion of "love" and all its blandishments and its so called "actual meaning" has gone astray .... in doing thus we have sent into the black hole those values ourselves and we seem to be living on mere residue of its actual lexicon significance ......
Saying thus have you not realized that byfar you or I or anyone for matter of context has ever , drawing forth truth , have come across a single physical or for that matter even meta physical or carnal being who does in its actualities "and all its glory" understand its original connotation....
Be sure to cast upon yourself these questions and more for then u shall understand my point has its standing and its viability is not out of question ...... waiting for your reply
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Tempatation , Obsession , Passion and Devotion
Every thing i do seems inexplicably to parachute back to this ultimate truth ... unswerving yet there are ways to overlook this or is there? .....
Temptation is a form of over expressing oneself ,... to express extreme desire towards something or someone or maybe a massive obsession . Well obsession and temptations are quite different and not much either ....
We all are tempted by those new shoes on displays aren't we or maybe not . But not if someone speaks about mythology all the time it certainly with sure regard dosn't signify his obsession , maybe its just a passing temptation ........everyone says he obsessed but now his obsessoion maybe something else altogether ( maybe that girl who sits at the back of your class and goes unnoticed or otherwise .... or maybe its that girl who's messaging your best friend ).
Now obsessions of course can become very nasty unless curbed with proper intent ..... as for temptations its like that lonely boy in your streets who's mourning the loss of his faorite doll ..... he'll come back to another doll ( eventually ).......
Now , more straddling , than obsession or temptation is passion ...... Now our friend passion here is a close cousin of love but not love himself .... Passion is a worthwhile feeling to have rather than temptation or obsession its strikes equilibrium between these entities and represents individuality in approach ....
Now this boy whose obsessions and temptation are already mentioned may have a genuine passion for science unswerving and unyielding and that is what will drive him through ......
As i already mentioned passion is no different from love than a dalmatian is from the German Shepard . Its just a matter of fine tuning thats all .... passion is directed wholly towards the subject of passion ....... but love as i already expressed is a very untoward emotion not like passion .........
Now devotion here , is like the German Shepard and the Pomeranian , not different besides the size ....... passion is limited and devotion to god is unlimited but i wont go into detail on that because i have a separate blog dedicated to that cause that has been dieing for a post since an year ..........
Anywway .... i'd love to recieve views on temptation , obsession , passion and devotion
Temptation is a form of over expressing oneself ,... to express extreme desire towards something or someone or maybe a massive obsession . Well obsession and temptations are quite different and not much either ....
We all are tempted by those new shoes on displays aren't we or maybe not . But not if someone speaks about mythology all the time it certainly with sure regard dosn't signify his obsession , maybe its just a passing temptation ........everyone says he obsessed but now his obsessoion maybe something else altogether ( maybe that girl who sits at the back of your class and goes unnoticed or otherwise .... or maybe its that girl who's messaging your best friend ).
Now obsessions of course can become very nasty unless curbed with proper intent ..... as for temptations its like that lonely boy in your streets who's mourning the loss of his faorite doll ..... he'll come back to another doll ( eventually ).......
Now , more straddling , than obsession or temptation is passion ...... Now our friend passion here is a close cousin of love but not love himself .... Passion is a worthwhile feeling to have rather than temptation or obsession its strikes equilibrium between these entities and represents individuality in approach ....
Now this boy whose obsessions and temptation are already mentioned may have a genuine passion for science unswerving and unyielding and that is what will drive him through ......
As i already mentioned passion is no different from love than a dalmatian is from the German Shepard . Its just a matter of fine tuning thats all .... passion is directed wholly towards the subject of passion ....... but love as i already expressed is a very untoward emotion not like passion .........
Now devotion here , is like the German Shepard and the Pomeranian , not different besides the size ....... passion is limited and devotion to god is unlimited but i wont go into detail on that because i have a separate blog dedicated to that cause that has been dieing for a post since an year ..........
Anywway .... i'd love to recieve views on temptation , obsession , passion and devotion
Valentine's day....
The most awaited day of the year for most young teenagers . The romance that fills the air the active discussions .... the goof ups . the proposals the refusals .... and for those lonely nerds just another day......
Is valentine's day about love or lust ... i think most people have lost their interest in falling in love ... Mostly fearing relationship , which will eventually catch up and tie them down to their base fawning . All these people going around with bouquets and boxes of chocolates represent cliche .
The activities are repititive and monotonous ... and from among these somber set of heavily infatuated ecstatic individuals ... one may be able to spot one true lover ... and he too has his doubts.....
They say love is a very gentle , tendre emotion ....... i wouldn't kno ..... cause i find it to appalling to fall in love without first understanding the so called intricate and more fragile theories of emotion ........
Well falling in love is one thing and thinking you are in love is quite another ....
Being a man of purely scientific temper ..... this may lead me to ask .. what physiological or psychological changes can we observe apart from those oft repeated plethora of seemingly outcast symptoms .... as absence of hunger ... occupied mind ..(not certain about wat) ..... sleeplessness ( these symptoms may also signify chronic diarrhoea or more rather viral fever.)
Then wat is it that this so called "Love" has different from any other emotion ........ how do we sense it .... do we actually sense it ? or have we lost the sensation? these and other question often plague the minds of those with systematic education and also those without it.
It is hard for those to understand who are not in love .... yet harder for those who are......
many a time and oft have we not heard people say that love is most important factor in life ..... well strictly speaking a child who is brought up in a socially active environment has more chances of failing the next tests than those who are fraught with uncertainty and for those who have been brought up mechanically like yr typical next door neighbor who does not come out of his room except while leaving for college. But better yet these people are so focused that they inevitable shine in the academic field .... INEVITABLY ......
So wat is love then .... an absolute necessity or a mere prereqisite ?
Guess its for time to answer and thence shell we understand its real meaning or will we?
Is valentine's day about love or lust ... i think most people have lost their interest in falling in love ... Mostly fearing relationship , which will eventually catch up and tie them down to their base fawning . All these people going around with bouquets and boxes of chocolates represent cliche .
The activities are repititive and monotonous ... and from among these somber set of heavily infatuated ecstatic individuals ... one may be able to spot one true lover ... and he too has his doubts.....
They say love is a very gentle , tendre emotion ....... i wouldn't kno ..... cause i find it to appalling to fall in love without first understanding the so called intricate and more fragile theories of emotion ........
Well falling in love is one thing and thinking you are in love is quite another ....
Being a man of purely scientific temper ..... this may lead me to ask .. what physiological or psychological changes can we observe apart from those oft repeated plethora of seemingly outcast symptoms .... as absence of hunger ... occupied mind ..(not certain about wat) ..... sleeplessness ( these symptoms may also signify chronic diarrhoea or more rather viral fever.)
Then wat is it that this so called "Love" has different from any other emotion ........ how do we sense it .... do we actually sense it ? or have we lost the sensation? these and other question often plague the minds of those with systematic education and also those without it.
It is hard for those to understand who are not in love .... yet harder for those who are......
many a time and oft have we not heard people say that love is most important factor in life ..... well strictly speaking a child who is brought up in a socially active environment has more chances of failing the next tests than those who are fraught with uncertainty and for those who have been brought up mechanically like yr typical next door neighbor who does not come out of his room except while leaving for college. But better yet these people are so focused that they inevitable shine in the academic field .... INEVITABLY ......
So wat is love then .... an absolute necessity or a mere prereqisite ?
Guess its for time to answer and thence shell we understand its real meaning or will we?
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